Even thought I’m busy, I found out the article written by Han (I don’t this person) is good. I hope it can help you to establish good relationship with other. After two week, I'll be very free.. yeah!
Do you often find yourself feeling uneasy and awkward in front of other people? Do you find meeting people is such a stressful thing to do? Do you have difficulties conversing with people? You are afraid of saying the wrong things or you are often lost of words. Then I will strongly recommend you to read the below:
10 tips to build a good human relationship:
1) Speak to people. There is nothing as nice as a cheerful word of greeting.
2) Smile at people. It takes seventy-two muscles to frown, only fourteen to smile.
3) Call people by name. Music to anyone’s ears is the sound of his/her own name.
4) Be friendly and helpful.
5) Be cordial (warm and sincere). Speak and act as if everything you do is genuinely
a pleasure, and if it isn’t, learn to make it so.
6) Be genuinely interested in people. You can like almost everybody if you try.
7) Be generous with praise, cautious with criticism.
8) Be considerate with the feelings of others. There are usually three sides to a
controversy: yours, the other fellow’s, and the right one.
9) Be alert to serve. What counts most in life is what we do for others.
10) Add to this a good sense of humor, a big dose of patience, and a dash of humility, and you will be rewarded manifold through life.
Lastly, I want to share to you the GOLDEN WORDS that will help you to get along with people:
SIX most important words that will soften any tension in a relationship:
“I admit I made a mistake.”
The FIVE most important words that others would like to hear:
“You did a good job.”
The FOUR most important words that will give others due respect:
“What do you think?”
The THREE most important words that places others of importance than us:
“After you please.”
The TWO most important words that will show appreciation to others:
“Thank you.”
The ONE most important word that will discourage self-centeredness:
“We”
The LEAST important word:
“I”
In many cases, people who fail in the life’s vocation fail because they cannot get along with people. If we have difficulties handling human relationship, we will have a lot of unnecessary stresses and problems.
It is important to note that you are not living by yourself in an island. Regardless of where you are going or what you are doing, you will often see people coming along your path. Let us try our best to minimize problem or to give problem to the people in our surround. Let us live and work together in peace and harmony.
If you often find yourself having the below problems then this article is good for you.
The problems:
1) People often misunderstood you.
2) People don’t like to be with you – you do not have many friend.
3) You cannot stay in a church or a company for long.
4) People often makes thing difficult for you.
5) Nobody likes to talk to you, they are avoiding you.
10 Attitudes that destroy human relationship:
1) Proud - unfriendly, arrogance, very rude, look down
Do not keep talking so proudly or let your mouth speak such arrogance, for the LORD is a God who knows, and by him deeds are weighed. 1 Samuel 2:3
Before his downfall a man’s heart is proud, but humility comes before honor. Proverbs 18:12
2) Selfish - Concerned only with oneself
An unfriendly man pursues selfish ends; he defies all sound judgment. Proverbs 18:1
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Philippians 2:3
3) Insensitive
Lacking in sensitivity to the feelings or circumstances of others; unfeeling. Lacking in responsiveness: insensitive to the needs of the customers.
4) Calculative
Extremely careful, often cunning estimation and planning of likely outcomes, especially to advance one’s own interests.
5) Inconsiderate
Thoughtless of others; displaying a lack of consideration
6) Taking advantage
Drawing advantages from others mistake.
7) Making use - having ulterior motive
Making use of other people to achieve your objective.
8) Gossip – Rumor or talk of a personal
A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret. Proverbs 11:13
A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends. Proverbs 16:28
9) Flattery - Excessive or insincere praise
For such people are not serving our Lord Christ, but their own appetites. By smooth talk and flattery they deceive the minds of naive people. Romans 16:18
You know we never used flattery, nor did we put on a mask to cover up greed–God is our witness. 1 Thessalonians 2:5
10) Critical - Inclined to judge severely and find fault (no tolerance)
Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Matthew 7:1-2
